Acceptance

Accepting reality is the most enlightening thing you can experience !
It's amazing. Just by saying...."yes ....this is the reality" you understand and see the big picture. It's giving you peace of mind and openness, even joy.

In a world where everybody is trying to create his own reality, stories, perceptions and lies, accepting the reality has become something so difficult to do ?

Accepting yourself with everything that you are, all the flaws, the good parts but also the improvement you have to make  is the first step in becoming a better person.

Accepting the person near you in the way that he/she is gives you the opportunity to freely chose to love or not, to continue or not, to understand and help if you can and to make the other feel appreciated and loved for what he/she is .

5 things we need to accept (The Five Things We Cannot Change … and the Happiness We Find by Embracing Them, “ David Richo):

1. Everything changes and ends.

2. Things do not always go according to plan.

3. Life is not always fair.

4. Pain is part of life.

5. People are not loving and loyal all the time.

Whatever happens, accepting the reality, accepting the way we are and what we feel will set us free.

Of course that from time to time an amount of unhappiness is natural, even necessary as a way to help you learn from the experience.

Difficulties and problems will always get in our way. But the best approach trough ....embracing them...welcoming them and accepting them. Give yourself time for sadness if needed, think about it, take your lessons and move on. 

Reality is not good or bad....reality just....IS ...so whatever happens, if you succeed to calm down and see what is happening, you will realize that in the end, each path has a good part, and each time you will discover opportunities and options.

But than ...the next question is ...what is reality ? how do you differentiate reality from perception ? Is there any "real reality " ?

What is it with self esteem ?

Why is it that the people that are smart, good looking and complex ...have a low self esteem ?

In a world where everybody is frustrated and needing more and more from themselves is self esteem a problem that just got out of control ?

I have so many wonderful friends, people that I admire, people that I love, people that are beautiful inside and out and that I am proud to call friends that have the biggest insecurities ..over themselves and life.
I know so many of them that show a high self esteem...even arrogance ...but when you look behind their shells and look inside ...they are so afraid...and so insecure.

Being afraid to open, being afraid to suffer, or to loose. Some are afraid that their true self is not enough, afraid to be judged or criticized. Feeling that they might be taken for fools if they show emotions ...that being sensitive is wrong.

What do we need in order to have a healthy self esteem ?