Thursday, December 8, 2011
Life is so much boring when you are not "in love"
LP(of these days/weeks): Life is so much boring when you are not "in love"
These days I am sooo bored !!!! Nothing seams to entertain me for more than a few minutes or maximum hours. And I got to think of what it's missing....and the only real response was : butterflies in my stomach.
It's weird how it happens that whatever we have, no matter how much we earn, or what promotion we've got, having true friends, maybe even having money, a good business, good health, good chocolate in our drawer ... it's just not enough.
It's like having a good soup....with all the ingredients needed (vegetables, meat, cream, and so on) ... except that ... it is still not good enough...it's ok....we can live with it....but we will not crave for it...something is missing. I am thinking of 2 things: spices and bread . Cause it gives flavor and it accompanies your soup in such a way that you not only survive with it, but it's actually pleasant and nourishing.
Enough about food ....cause it makes us hungry, right ?! (don't go for the chocolate ! )
But well...ya....I have a great life...but I miss some pepper ! Also...I wish I could share everything that I think and everything that happens to me with someone . Someone that it's there for me and will love me no matter what. I have my friends, sure, but they have their own life and their own "love" (bfriend/gfriend). That somebody is happy to see you and talk to you no matter the hour, no matter how busy, no matter the mood.
And we also want to feel loved...everyday ... that at home, somebody is waiting with a small surprise (like a soup cooked with love), and will keep us in their arms just like that, and will accept to hear all our bullshits that not even we, personally, want to hear.
This idea is too far and to hard to obtain ?! Well....I would be ok just with a few butterflies then...nothing fancy. If we don't have oregano or basil and not even pepper....I am ok just with some salt.
So if we do not have a real relationship, we still feel the need to have a "story" or just to have a "focus" on somebody, just to keep things interesting. Just to like somebody and to see how things go from day to day... is he/she going to call or not ? Should I text him/her or not ?! Much more interesting .
Conclusion: "Waiter..... some pepper please !!! "
Monday, December 5, 2011
Giving up on "drugs"
How hard it is to give up on our "drugs" ...
We know they are bad, we know that we need to give up and stay away from them....but somehow...in the moment that we nearly succeeded to get them out of our system....we miss them.
So yes, I wish I could give up smoking, but well, it makes me feel so good when I light up a cigarette and I relax and clear my mind while I am smoking.
And I do want to give up on my toxic relationships, but again, it feels so exiting to taste that madness and passion that was there and probably still is just by saying a simple "Hi".
I wish I wouldn't open my fridge and take a new slice of cheese at 10 in the evening, but my body feels so good eating it and enjoying that bite.
Small and big sins that feel so good in the moment we taste them and in a few hours they seam such a big mistake.
In life, we have some drugs that no matter how much we try to replace with healthier habits, they seem to be irreplaceable.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Acceptance
Accepting reality is the most enlightening thing you can experience !
It's amazing. Just by saying...."yes ....this is the reality" you understand and see the big picture. It's giving you peace of mind and openness, even joy.
In a world where everybody is trying to create his own reality, stories, perceptions and lies, accepting the reality has become something so difficult to do ?
Accepting yourself with everything that you are, all the flaws, the good parts but also the improvement you have to make is the first step in becoming a better person.
Accepting the person near you in the way that he/she is gives you the opportunity to freely chose to love or not, to continue or not, to understand and help if you can and to make the other feel appreciated and loved for what he/she is .
5 things we need to accept (The Five Things We Cannot Change … and the Happiness
We Find by Embracing Them, “ David Richo):
1. Everything changes and ends.
2. Things do not always go according to plan.
3. Life is not always fair.
4. Pain is part of life.
5. People are not loving and loyal all the time.
1. Everything changes and ends.
2. Things do not always go according to plan.
3. Life is not always fair.
4. Pain is part of life.
5. People are not loving and loyal all the time.
Whatever happens, accepting the reality, accepting the way we are and what we feel will set us free.
Of course that from time to time an amount of unhappiness is natural,
even necessary as a way to help you learn from the experience.
Difficulties and problems will always get in our way. But the best approach trough ....embracing them...welcoming them and accepting them. Give yourself time for sadness if needed, think about it, take your lessons and move on.
But than ...the next question is ...what is reality ? how do you differentiate reality from perception ? Is there any "real reality " ?
Sunday, November 6, 2011
What is it with self esteem ?
Why is it that the people that are smart, good looking and complex ...have a low self esteem ?
In a world where everybody is frustrated and needing more and more from themselves is self esteem a problem that just got out of control ?
I have so many wonderful friends, people that I admire, people that I love, people that are beautiful inside and out and that I am proud to call friends that have the biggest insecurities ..over themselves and life.
I know so many of them that show a high self esteem...even arrogance ...but when you look behind their shells and look inside ...they are so afraid...and so insecure.
Being afraid to open, being afraid to suffer, or to loose. Some are afraid that their true self is not enough, afraid to be judged or criticized. Feeling that they might be taken for fools if they show emotions ...that being sensitive is wrong.
What do we need in order to have a healthy self esteem ?
In a world where everybody is frustrated and needing more and more from themselves is self esteem a problem that just got out of control ?
I have so many wonderful friends, people that I admire, people that I love, people that are beautiful inside and out and that I am proud to call friends that have the biggest insecurities ..over themselves and life.
I know so many of them that show a high self esteem...even arrogance ...but when you look behind their shells and look inside ...they are so afraid...and so insecure.
Being afraid to open, being afraid to suffer, or to loose. Some are afraid that their true self is not enough, afraid to be judged or criticized. Feeling that they might be taken for fools if they show emotions ...that being sensitive is wrong.
What do we need in order to have a healthy self esteem ?
Friday, August 19, 2011
Stories
It's interesting how people manage to see the reality in the way they need it.
Sometimes we do like this : we have the facts but we cannot accept the truth so, what we do next in our heads is to change facts, distortion the information received in order to be acceptable for us and our feelings.
One of this kind of stories are when we are cheated or when we are left / abandoned by our love partner. We just don't understand what is happening, why us, why to us and where did we go wrong. So....we make up stories concerning different external forces that controlled the situation.
My favorite story about this goes smth like this : "my man cheated me / abandoned me because another girl put charms / spells on him . She took him away from me without his own will. He was actually loving me and we were having a great relationship, but this witch (or bitch, by case ) came and charmed him without him even realizing. So ? What can I do ? It was not me ! Our relationship was perfect...it was an exterior power . "
Hahahaha....girls (cause let's admit this, boys don't do this) , please, stop lying to yourselves, it doesn't help . This idea is a total bullshit. If he is leaving or cheating you, something is wrong !!!!! Point .
And even funnier, the idiot that put his dick in another girl or be decided to leave (either as a coward or just because he doesn't love you anymore) he is a fucking saint, he is also a victim and the poor guy was charmed.
Please understand by charmed everything from seduced, conquered, spelled, or anything in between.
I cannot even underline enough how unhealthy is this way of thinking . For us as "victims". It just makes us have a wrong image about ourselves , our life and our relationships. If you are this kind of person , you will never be able to have better relationships until the point you open yourself to see and accept the truth. After, you can analyze and see what can you do next.
Stop lying to yourselves girls. Your man just didn't want you anymore or you were having problems in your relationship or you just didn't do your part so well (of being a girlfriend).
Get to the next one....but never forget to understand what was right and what was wrong in what you did in your previous relationships.
Sometimes we do like this : we have the facts but we cannot accept the truth so, what we do next in our heads is to change facts, distortion the information received in order to be acceptable for us and our feelings.
One of this kind of stories are when we are cheated or when we are left / abandoned by our love partner. We just don't understand what is happening, why us, why to us and where did we go wrong. So....we make up stories concerning different external forces that controlled the situation.
My favorite story about this goes smth like this : "my man cheated me / abandoned me because another girl put charms / spells on him . She took him away from me without his own will. He was actually loving me and we were having a great relationship, but this witch (or bitch, by case ) came and charmed him without him even realizing. So ? What can I do ? It was not me ! Our relationship was perfect...it was an exterior power . "
Hahahaha....girls (cause let's admit this, boys don't do this) , please, stop lying to yourselves, it doesn't help . This idea is a total bullshit. If he is leaving or cheating you, something is wrong !!!!! Point .
And even funnier, the idiot that put his dick in another girl or be decided to leave (either as a coward or just because he doesn't love you anymore) he is a fucking saint, he is also a victim and the poor guy was charmed.
Please understand by charmed everything from seduced, conquered, spelled, or anything in between.
I cannot even underline enough how unhealthy is this way of thinking . For us as "victims". It just makes us have a wrong image about ourselves , our life and our relationships. If you are this kind of person , you will never be able to have better relationships until the point you open yourself to see and accept the truth. After, you can analyze and see what can you do next.
Stop lying to yourselves girls. Your man just didn't want you anymore or you were having problems in your relationship or you just didn't do your part so well (of being a girlfriend).
Get to the next one....but never forget to understand what was right and what was wrong in what you did in your previous relationships.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Group decisions
LP: don't involve more than one person in your decision process, they will make a mess
These days I am working to open a new blog related to my first and most important passion , which is fashion, shoes, bags and so on .
Even if I want to do it as a passion first, the idea is that I never go for small or less. So I want to make it as good as possible, to differentiate from the other sites on the same idea and to come with something useful that also represents me.
Very simple to say, but hard to do. I am blocked at the first thing: the name of the site . I need it to be creative, representative, fun , to be related to the pink panther and to fashion.... So, I used my facebook account to do a poll on the name of the site . And again, I find myself having more questions than answers .
Either way, the experiment it's really interesting cause I had a lot of responses and received a lot of ideas .
Still didn't decided...but I guess I am on the right way
These days I am working to open a new blog related to my first and most important passion , which is fashion, shoes, bags and so on .
Even if I want to do it as a passion first, the idea is that I never go for small or less. So I want to make it as good as possible, to differentiate from the other sites on the same idea and to come with something useful that also represents me.
Very simple to say, but hard to do. I am blocked at the first thing: the name of the site . I need it to be creative, representative, fun , to be related to the pink panther and to fashion.... So, I used my facebook account to do a poll on the name of the site . And again, I find myself having more questions than answers .
Either way, the experiment it's really interesting cause I had a lot of responses and received a lot of ideas .
Still didn't decided...but I guess I am on the right way
Wednesday, August 10, 2011
2 sides
LP: Everyone has it's own side of the cube
So....if you look at a cube that normally should have 6 faces, which one do you see ?
Stupid question no ?
It's the same with any real life situation. We all have the same information but still, we judge and see it totally different....or better, we see another side of the story .
That is actually wonderful cause in this way we learn and see what we do not observe at the first look.
If for example, the faces of the cube have totally different colors , and I can see white and you can see black , than, what will happen is that I will talk about the same thing but picturing it white and you will understand that it;s black. It's hard for me to make you see white when what you actually see is black.
And the worse is when both or at least one of the parts don't want to accept that it's possible that the same cube have different colors depending on the way you see it (on the perspective you look at it).
Still...for the same reason I always ask myself....ok....I see white and I understand that you see black....but am I right ? can I say that the cube is white? Or I should just accept that it's multicolored ?
What if most of the cube is actually black and only my side it's white ?
All in all, we have different perspectives on the same information and situations but we almost never know for sure if we are right or wrong and how should we act further ...
So....if you look at a cube that normally should have 6 faces, which one do you see ?
Stupid question no ?
It's the same with any real life situation. We all have the same information but still, we judge and see it totally different....or better, we see another side of the story .
That is actually wonderful cause in this way we learn and see what we do not observe at the first look.
If for example, the faces of the cube have totally different colors , and I can see white and you can see black , than, what will happen is that I will talk about the same thing but picturing it white and you will understand that it;s black. It's hard for me to make you see white when what you actually see is black.
And the worse is when both or at least one of the parts don't want to accept that it's possible that the same cube have different colors depending on the way you see it (on the perspective you look at it).
Still...for the same reason I always ask myself....ok....I see white and I understand that you see black....but am I right ? can I say that the cube is white? Or I should just accept that it's multicolored ?
What if most of the cube is actually black and only my side it's white ?
All in all, we have different perspectives on the same information and situations but we almost never know for sure if we are right or wrong and how should we act further ...
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