Mixed messages

It's weird how we learn and change perspectives almost everyday.
I used to believe that men are not emotional and that in the end some of them are just obsessed with sex, or that they cannot suffer, or that for them it's much easier to put barriers and be cold.

I guess that no matter how much we want to believe that...because...well..."they are man" ....it's far from reality.
They too can suffer and be unprotected, have hopes that you do not even imagine they can have and they also get hurt as easy as we do. Probably the difference might be that they don't whine so much about it.

And I was surprised to find out from 2 of the biggest "players"  I know that they do not like to play games. How is that possible ? Simple, when they don't want anything serious, they are very clear about it and they take care not to transmit a different message then "I want to have sex/fun with you" . In these cases they will never use emotional arguments or feelings .....even if we, as woman, have the impression that they do...they don't. Not sure? Pay more attention next time when you encounter a man like this. They are very clear about what they want !
And when they want something more (smth serious)....they are very clear about that direction as well.

If I think about our methods (as girls) ... I become uncomfortable . We are so bad at this !!! Cause we never know for sure what we want, we never know how to separate the 2 situations or how to transmit a clear message in just one of those directions. No, we are mixing everything. No wonder that the guys are totally confused . Plus, it's somehow unexpected from a girl to want or to have superficial connections with guys, so unless clearly specified ...by default , we are interpreted as serious .

And this is how...we get to hurt these guys...cause we do not know how to transmit clear messages, we do not accept that they are human just like us and that we really need to take care about what we say and do as much as anybody else.